On The Paris Terror Attacks

The following post was written on Facebook by a friend, whom like all of us, was angered by the attacks in Paris that left 129 dead and over 300 hurt, many critically.

""One cannot negotiate with psychopaths from the middle ages" How much more must civilized people endure? Buildings taken down, subway attacks, hotel attacks, and on and on it goes. Now Paris. The French have discovered the unintended consequences of open borders. They have now closed them (a little late in the game perhaps). We as Americas stand outraged over the color of coffee cups; outraged expressed by those who celebrate on Thanksgiving by standing outside retail stores determined to be the first one open after the last belch is expressed from dinner. They would (and have) killed for the last I-phone. We have crippled our police officers from doing their job, We teach our children the joys of collectivism and the folly of individualism. We elect politicians who pretend to be like us while they live in their mansions as they bathe in their millions. We have accepted and even embrace mediocrity. We laugh and revel in circus while Rome burns. The best quote of the day from (Facebook friend)'s good friend (name redacted) Destroy them now...I will ask for God's forgiveness afterward. (Facebook friend) begs forgivness for this rare political rant however this is now well beyond the scope of tolerance. Perhaps that this action that has gotten even the French to give up their espressos, pane chocolate, and a 4 day work week to retaliate,,may finally wake nations to do what they need to do quickly and decisively."

I do agree with this Facebook friend (to a certain extent) about getting outraged over trivial items.  And I am glad that the non issue that was the red cup debacle is on the back burner.  We get too worked up over nonsense, which I have been saying all along.  The smallest slights set us off.  Seriously, people, grow the hell up.

Speaking of people who need to grow up, many conservative wing nuts took to social media blaming politicians like President Obama for the Paris attacks (as if he were the one who destabilized an entire region by invading the wrong country in response to 9/11, which led to the establishment of ISIS, among other bad things).  One even suggested that if France's gun laws were not so strict, more lives could have been saved.  But what is to be expected from those always giving the NRA loonies a blow job?

Here is what is known about the attacks thus far.....

129 people are dead, including an American college student.  Over 300 are hurt, many critically.  ISIS has come forward to claim responsibility for the attacks.  France has declared a state of emergency, and has closed it's borders.  All of the attackers are dead, according to police.

I hope that Paris can fully recover from these senseless attacks.  And there is no reason to believe that they won't.  They will back, bigger, better, and stronger than ever.

We need to come together to help France, and to bring those responsible for these attacks to justice.  Really, now is not the time to point fingers and place blame.  We must stand united against terrorism.  Whining about whose fault it is will not get us anywhere.

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News Wrap Up, November 10th, 2015

It's time for THE NO CHILL ZONE News Wrap Up.

First, let the so-called " War on Christmas" begin!  First, Starbucks Coffee is under fire for putting their drinks in red cups.  And a mall in Long Island, New York, had to change their holiday display after customers complained about it not being in sync with Christmas.

So, this is what people are whining about (now), huh?  Red coffee cups and a modern holiday display.  Meanwhile, we have people starving, homeless, and in poverty to ring in the season this year.

Priorities, people!  GET THEM STRAIGHT.

Second, amid racial tensions, the president and a chancellor of the University of Missouri announced their resignations.  The last straw was that black players on the school's football team refused to play until the president stepped down.

Like comedian and radio personality D.L. Hughley said, "I guess black lives matter on the football field!"

The resignations are a good thing, considering that the race issues could have (and should have) been addressed promptly, rather than letting them spiral out of control.  Hopefully, a lesson learned for the school leadership going forward.

Finally, the publication Deadspin.com released pages of information and graphic images related to embattled Dallas Cowboys player Greg Hardy's domestic violence case.  Hardy was suspended ten games before the NFL players union intervened and got the ban reduced to four games.

The documents provide a blow by blow account of the night in question that led to Hardy's arrest.  He was convicted,  but he appealed and his conviction was tossed, because his ex - girlfriend victim failed to show up to court (It is alleged that he paid her off).

A man who puts his hands on a woman is NOT A MAN AT ALL.  This is not my opinion.  This is the cold hard truth.  Justice did not get Hardy, but God will.

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Election Day Wrap Up

It's time for THE NO CHILL ZONE Election Day Wrap Up.

I will start in my city of residence, Bridgeport, Connecticut, where voters re-elected former mayor and convict Joe Ganim.  Ganim had served as mayor in the 1990s until 2003, when he was sent to prison for seven years for various corruption charges.  Voters believed that Ganim deserved a shot at redemption, and chose him in a rout over several other candidates.

I actually met (and shook hands with) the outgoing mayor, Bill Finch, who lost to Ganim in the Democratic primary.   He seems like a nice guy, and he brought many projects to the Park City.  But my view of Finch wasn't shared by other residents, who decided they needed to bring back a former convict.   I can only hope that Ganim continues the good work that Finch put in.

In Ohio, voters shot down a proposal to legalize medical and recreational marijuana.  This would have been huge, in my honest opinion, if this would have passed in the red state.

In Houston, Texas, voters repealed an ordinance that many said prevented discrimination about the LGBT community.  Opponents of the ordinance said it gave men an excuse to use the women's restroom.

I guess that there are people who are still stuck in the Stone Age when it comes to social issues such as LGBT rights.

Finally, in Kentucky, voters elected a tea party Republican businessman to be the next governor of the Bluegrass State.  Which really doesn't surprise me, and shouldn't have surprised anyone.

Are there any other big Election Day stories that I may have missed?  Leave them in the comments section.

On White Privilege

The topic of white privilege has been discussed in various forums, whether in newspapers, where I read a column in the New York Daily News about a politician from the state of Rhode Island who claims that it doesn't exist, or in online media, which has very expansive on the subject.  For those who may not know what the hell I'm talking about, white privilege is the belief that white people have benefited greatly not just by the virtue of their skin color, but by virtue of having a system in place that oppresses people of color.

I have read up on white privilege and cannot deny that it exists.  In my current job, I deal with many privileged (I also use the term spoiled) white people, who travel from various upper class suburbs.  Obviously, they think they are better than everyone else, and some don't even try to hide that, at least not from me.

Many white people believe that they earned their privilege from hard work and dedication.  But how can deny that part of their privilege may come from keeping the so-called "other" down?  I, for one, have two college degrees (and am trying for a third as we speak).  But I can't find a decent job that fits my education, experience, and skills.  A family member even asked me if that might be attributed to discrimination.  While I do not have a real answer to that question, it has crossed my mind as of late.

I also find that it would be very difficult to talk to white people about their privilege.  Like the politician from Rhode Island, many don't think that it exists (Some also feel that way about racism).  Some end up getting very defensive about it, and try to turn the tables on anyone who brings it up.

A honest conversation on race relations is exactly what this country needs right now, especially given recent events that have made the news.  Let's not wait until there's a so-called "race war" to hash out our differences.  The time for this conversation is now.

On Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

The following passage comes courtesy of a Facebook friend from New England, Chaunty Spillane.

"#‎coffeestatus‬ I was thinking and you cannot help those who don't want help and just want to do things in their own self-destructive ways. That's fine. I'm letting it go. You cannot help someone who constantly puts you down and who constantly breaks every boundary you set. You cannot help someone who uses you for things that cost money and never "pays their way". You cannot help someone who does not respect you. You cannot help someone who does not love you. They need to learn to love themselves first BEFORE they can truly love anyone else otherwise it is just infatuation. That could be dangerous. That could come from both sexes in many ways. You cannot help someone who turns totally cold hearted for no apparent reason--that usually indicates PTSD and YOU CAN HELP WITH THAT!!! BECAUSE NOW YOU KNOW WHAT IT IS! And it is NOT SCARY!!!  And everything I've described above are also PTSD symptoms that you can help with once you diagnose it or someone you trust or a medical professional does. Then you can start to know what triggers them and just show them love. Love them from afar if they are too much of a danger to your own person and life. JUST LOVE THEM. They need it. And show them that it feels nice to be loved. Don't turn others against them, INSTEAD maybe help them make a Facebook or go onto some social network that they find amusing and that will help unbelievably because then THEY CAN RECLAIM THEIR LIFE AND FREEDOM FROM TRIGGERS. Suggest psychotherapy with an actual psychologist, maybe group therapy too, and definitely help them get some relief with a psychiatrist. And when they reclaim their life, it's like they are screaming: "I want to live this life the best I can and I want to have love for myself and others." They at least want to try because you've helped add purpose to their life and so have their old reunited connections and new connections. This disorder is far too common these days leaving families and friends shattered and dysfunctional---a quality of life that no one deserves. It undermines you after a while. This is why it is so urgent that we care for those we love and who mean something to us or should mean something to us. And it never hurts to look at ourselves too. Do the right thing, it doesn't take a lot of effort. I know you can do this and straighten out things as I believe in you always in everything. I love you and let's cure PTSD with LOVE and CARE. XOXOOXO"

I agree wholeheartedly with Ms. Spillane's statement.

Post traumatic stress disorder can be triggered by many things, such as being the victim of a violent attack, or being at war and seeing horrible events during one's service.  PTSD, like some mental illnesses, doesn't have a cure, but if properly treated, the symptoms can be minimized.  It also helps that those suffering from PTSD have a strong support system including family and friends as well as a treatment team.

As someone who suffers from another mental illness, major depressive disorder, I believe that we have to do more to help those who suffer from depression, PTSD, and the like.  Sadly, we only seem to talk about this when something violent occurs (and even then, mental illness is not the root cause of the violence).  We need to talk about this every single day.  We need to improve treatment, as well as access to treatment.  We can't just hope for the best.  We need to take serious action.  And the time to take action is NOW.

Again, thanks to Chaunty Spillane for her thoughts on this issue.

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On Gentrification

Ladies and gentlemen, I have just finished reading a rather interesting article in The Atlantic magazine.  The article is basically a defense of gentrification, as we are seeing in neighborhoods such as Harlem and The South Bronx.  The writer of the piece believes that we have the narrative of this subject wrong, and that not as many people are displaced by gentrification as we may think.  This is according to studies that are highlighted in the piece.

This may ring true (at least to the writer of the piece) that neighborhoods that are seeing gentrification may see some progress.  However, when neighborhoods are left out of the planning to bring in people with higher incomes, understandably, controversy can ensue.  There are articles on http://welcome2thebronx.com/ that detail the borough's struggle with gentrifying neighborhoods.

While gentrification may make some neighborhoods get better, they also bring amenities that are fiscally out of reach to the poor residents.  And while I have read articles about upper class people appreciating the culture of neighborhoods like Harlem and The South Bronx, and saying that they are not trying to push anyone out, I don't see these folks really interacting with people who spent entire lives there.

I also see a bit of irony in gentrification.  Yes, I find it ironic that wealthy white people (and yes, most of them are white) suddenly want to live in neighborhoods filled with people of color.  After all, wasn't these same people rushing to get the hell away from us, by moving to more "racially homogeneous" parts of cities?  Or the suburbs?

I most certainly hope that upper class folks have good intentions when deciding to move into neighborhoods that others might have deemed too seedy before.  But now we have local media and real estate firms declaring that "Neighborhood X" could be the next Williamsburg, or SoHo.  While some may see this as a good thing, longtime residents have plenty of reason to worry.  Because with a change of people, comes a change of character, and possibly erasure, to a neighborhood.

On "Respectability Politics"

Over the last few days, America has heard about the high school student who was tossed across a classroom by a "school resource" officer.  The video of the incident has led people to take sides.  There are those who say that the officer used excessive force in his handling of the student.  And then, there are others who believe that the student got what she deserved, for being disruptive in class, and not following the orders of the officer.  The officer was fired following a review of his actions.

But what if the student in question did what was asked of her by the officer?  I wonder now if that would have changed the outcome of this whole situation.  Keep in mind that the student is Black, while the officer is White.  Meanwhile, at least 100 students led a protest to have the officer reinstated, which included some black students.

This brings me to the issue of "Respectability Politics," which dictates that if a person of color (specifically, a Black person) acts in a manner that is "respectable," then (s)he should little to nothing to worry about when it comes to interactions with white people (specifically, white police officers).  Some people, mostly political and social conservatives, hold this to be true.  Others, though, don't think that respectability matters, especially if some white people already hold negative views about people of color.

Count me as one of those who don't seem to think that respectability matters.  Having lived in New York City, which is supposed to be a beacon of tolerance (it's not; the City can be just as racist as any other city in America), I have some experience with this.  When I was in high school, I was stopped by a police officer inside a train station in The Bronx.  After showing him my high school identification card, he made the claim that I looked older than I actually was.  In another incident, this time in Manhattan, in 2006, I was stopped by another police officer as I was leaving Grand Central Terminal, and I was detained for about twenty minutes while they verified my identification.  I would be told that I looked like someone who passed through there earlier.  In both incidents, I was "respectable," but as I mentioned before, if someone has a negative view of people of color, it doesn't matter how "respectable" one thinks (s)he is.

I always carry myself in a civilized manner, but if I learned anything from my time in the so called "greatest city in the world" (it's not), it's that racism exists even in the most "liberal" or "progressive" of places.  Wherever I go, I know that I will be scrutinized more become some people think that I don't belong in certain areas because of my skin color.  No amount of "respectability" will ever change that.

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